Saturday, April 22, 2006

Step-children in obituary

From: Jackie Utley
DearMYRTLE,
A dear friend is terminal with cancer and is writing her own obituary in preparation. She married a man with grown children and they had one child of their own. Since the stepchildren lived with their mother, there was contact mainly on holidays and at family celebrations. In other words, she didn't help raise the children, although she loves them as her own.

She wants to list these children as "their" children in the obituary, making no distinction between stepchildren and her child. I'm concerned that this will cause genealogical nightmares in years to come.

Any suggestions on how to gracefully approach this with her?

DearJACKIE,
This certainly is a sticky wicket. However, experienced genealogists know to take such second-hand obituary info with a grain of salt. I would recommend something like:

"She is survived by her husband ___________ and his children ___, ___ and ___ ; and their child ___. "

What do Ol' Myrt's readers think? I am sure others have dealt with this situation.

Happy family tree climbing!
Myrt :)
DearMYRTLE,
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